Category: Love & Marriage
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You Don’t Need a Partner to Be Whole: The Joy of a “Good-Enough” Single Life
For many, the quest for happiness seems intrinsically tied to the hope of finding a romantic partner — a soulmate, a spouse, someone to share the mundane and magical moments of life. When we’re not in a relationship, especially when we haven’t been in one for a long time or have never had one at…
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Understanding Modern Relationship Behaviors: 13 Experiences That Challenge Trust and Connection
Relationships can bring joy and fulfillment, but they can also test our patience and emotional resilience. In today’s world, dating and relationships come with new terms and behaviors that might feel familiar, even if you didn’t have a name for them. This is what love has become in the age of phones and social media—a…
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The Secret to Happiness: Building Meaningful Relationships
Arthur Brooks, a renowned social scientist, shares profound insights into what truly makes life happy and fulfilling as we age. Contrary to common assumptions, the key isn’t just about chasing passions or raising children—it’s about cultivating deep, enduring relationships. Here’s what he emphasizes: 1. The Power of a Strong Partnership At the heart of a…
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Arrogance in Relationships
In the delicate dance of love and companionship, one factor that can be incredibly detrimental to a relationship is arrogance. Wallowing in arrogance occurs when one partner consistently displays a sense of superiority over the other, causing harm that often goes unnoticed until the damage is profound. This form of toxic behavior can manifest in…
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The most beautiful human bond is Friendship
Friendship is the most beautiful relationship because it is based on mutual trust, understanding, and support. Unlike romantic or familial relationships, friendships are not bound by obligation or societal expectations, making them more freely chosen and thus, more authentic. Friendship is also unique in that it allows for vulnerability without fear of judgment. Friends can…
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Responsibilities in a Marriage
In a marriage, both partners have responsibilities towards each other. These responsibilities include: Overall, the responsibilities of husband and wife towards each other are to support and respect each other, communicate openly and honestly, and work together as partners to build a strong and healthy relationship.
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Need for Companionship after 40
And as ridiculous as it may sound, sometimes all any of us needs in life is for someone to hold our hand and walk next to us. James Frey As we age, our social needs and priorities may shift. While we may have had a strong focus on building a career or raising a family…
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Love can be Pathological
Pathological forms of love refer to types of love that are considered abnormal or unhealthy. These can take many different forms and are often associated with personality disorders or other mental health conditions. Some examples of pathological forms of love include: These forms of love can be harmful to both the person experiencing them and…
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Love as an experience of shared being
The idea of love as an experience of shared being suggests that when we love someone deeply, we feel a sense of oneness or unity with that person. This feeling of oneness is not just a mental or emotional state, but an experiential one, in which we feel a sense of connection and intimacy that…
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How to tell whether a person has no psychological disorders?
It is important to note that only a trained mental health professional can diagnose psychological disorders. However, there are certain signs and behaviors that can indicate whether a person may not have a psychological disorder: It is important to note that even if a person displays these characteristics, they may still have underlying psychological issues…
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Fitness: An Essential Shared Value in Relationships
If you have been reading my blog enough, you know by now that having shared values and interests is critical to the long-term success of relationships. Of several essential shared values like trust, responsibility, loyalty and so on, I believe Physical Fitness is one of the most important because it can make or break a…
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Questions to discuss with your partner before you say ‘yes’ to marriage
For all those considering marrying – be it the first time or another time – it always makes sense to understand fully what you’re signing up for when you say ‘yes’ to marrying someone. This applies to both love marriages as well as arranged marriages. Most couples learn this the hard way and it need…
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Paul Brunton on Marrying on the Spiritual Path
I look up to Paul Brunton as one of many spiritual teachers that influenced and taught me. Paul Brunton was a British philosopher, researcher, mystic, and adventurer. He left a journalistic career to live among yogis, mystics, and holy men and studied a wide variety of Eastern and Western esoteric teachings. With his entire life…
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The Recipe for a Great Partnership
I have at times challenged the institution of marriage, even criticised it at times for how it has morphed into a legal, gender-biased, religious and political institution and believed that it requires some reinvention or at least needs to be reviewed. But when I look at marriage as a partnership, or perhaps the greatest partnership…
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To Love is to Value
Love has become the most versatile word in today’s day-to-day lexicon. People ‘love’ to use the word love in the context of absolutely anything one can think of: shopping, food, celebrities, travel, toys, writers, sleep, recreation and the list can go on and on. Love has been commoditised to such an extent that it is…
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Should we live with Infidelity in Marriage?
Infidelity is the breaking of a promise to remain faithful to a romantic partner, whether that promise was a part of marriage vows, a privately uttered agreement between lovers, or an unspoken assumption. As unthinkable as the notion of breaking such promises may be at the time they are made, infidelity is common. I have…
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Consummate Love: The Pinnacle of Romantic Love
Robert Sternberg developed the triangular theory of love to describe Consummate Love– a state of perfection in love. He says it is made up of three building blocks- an intimacy component, a passion component, and a decision/commitment component. Passion is the sheer physical and emotional attraction felt towards a romantic partner. All love stories begin…
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Relationship check: Watch how one treats his/ her worst enemy
Before getting into a relationship with a person, it makes sense to run this simple check: Just watch how the person treats their worst enemy. This will tell you how you will be treated if by chance you are to be tagged as an enemy one day. You will get to feel that behaviour. Compassion…
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Love is hard
It’s easy to simply confess to someone ‘I love you. ‘Doing’ love is the hard bit. For most practical purposes ‘to love’ is taken to mean ‘to enjoy’ another person and lets ourselves ‘be enjoyed’ by them. Even the Oxford dictionary agrees with this practical definition: a strong feeling that you have when you like…
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Instant Messaging’s war on Marriage
The title may sound like an exaggeration. It is not. Some people may argue in favour of social media usage for sustaining friendships but when it comes to marriages it’s a sure destroyer. Let’s just say the average couple will find it exceedingly difficult to sustain a healthy relationship while leading independent social media lives.…
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Getting the marriage to work
I wrote a post on Love Vs Marriage, mainly for those who are not yet married. Here is something I found useful and others who may be married also may. Romantic marriage is everyone’s ideal. Romantic reasons for marriage include So, it is quite possible that one may develop love after marriage too. So romantic…
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Marriage Vs Love
One day my daughter will find herself at the crossroads where she has to choose to take the step toward marriage. I may or may not be around to guide her or I am not sure she will even seek my counsel. So, I thought of putting it down for her, anyway, hoping she may…
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Homemaker: The Most Important Career in the World
The job that gives meaning to every other job
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Love Flourishes When..
Lessons on love thatvlife taught me
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Love and Walk Along
Love knows no taking, only to give, seeks no reward here or hereafter; Seeks no treasure at the end of life’s rainbow, so Love and walk along. Love springs from within, not from the other; It comes out of our own nature; like the sun shines, and the flowers bloom, it cant be held back,…
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Lessons for my daughter from an Indian Wedding
A marriage is a beautiful journey of friendship, commitment, companionship, love and parenting. An Indian wedding is something else.
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