NAVEEN NIVERTHY
AUTHOR, MARKETING & SALES LEADER, LIFE STRATEGIST
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Health. Work. Love. Parenting. Spirituality.
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Using beliefs as means rather than end
Most of us are products of societal learning and conditioning. Based on the communities and traditions that we have been brought up in, we grow up with different kinds of beliefs. A belief is an acceptance that something exists or is true, especially one without proof. Most of these beliefs we never question or are…
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All love is Self-Love
We all have at some point in life experienced love. It may be the love of people, of animals or even plant forms, of things, activities and so on. The message with this post is that there is essentially only one form of love and that is self-love and it is this self- love that…
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Is an apology enough?
Apology and forgiveness do not cancel each other. It takes a lot more.
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Do we really love our children?
Let’s us prepare them for the world and not prepare a world for them.
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How do you measure the success of Parenting?
By far the biggest investment of one’s lifetime is parenting a child. It is an investment which takes 25-30 years of committed labour, love and resources to show signs of maturity.
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Darśana: the highest form of understanding
It’s a gift; it’s like there’s a moment in which the thing is ready to let you see it. In India, this is called darshan. Darshan means getting a view, and if the clouds blow away, as they did once for me, and you get a view of the Himalayas from the foothills, an Indian…
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Breaking out of the dreaded drama triangle
Every once in a while, all of us find ourselves entangled in interactions that are negative and destructive. We refer to these kinds of conflicts as the Dreaded Drama Triangle. In any relationship conflict, there are three roles and each person involved dons one of these three roles, most of the time. You play one…
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Understanding the five coverings of our personality and our experiences
There are several ways of looking at our sense of our own individuality, our sense of experience of this world and that of ourselves. Here, I would like to share one of the ways Vedanta looks at personal experiences as well as our personality.
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11 Values to value by age 11
Here is a curated list of the eleven most important values that I would like my daughter to appreciate by the time she turns 11. 1. Time: Most regrets we have later in our lives are about how we used our time in the past. It’s the most limited resource each of us has. An…
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Why protect adolescents and teenagers from social media
What kind of an influence can cause a sixteen year old to end her life? When I was looking up this topic I could see innumerable research studies that have consistently shown direct correlation between social media usage by teens and anxiety, depression, attention deficit, sleep deprivation and mood related issues.
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Our biggest assets and liabilities are relationships
We can’t own people, but we definitely own relationships. And while we own them, like any property, a relationship can either become an asset or a liability. Be it work or one’s private life, one of the biggest influence on the amount of happiness and misery of our lives are the people that we live,…
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How bondage arises out of freedom
Without knowing the skill to preserve freedom, one simply moves from one bondage to another.
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Learning to take charge of emotions
All of us have emotions. Some of us are more sensitive than others but we all have them. Emotions can be both positive as well as negative and they influence how we think and act. This makes emotions a very important aspect of our personality to manage. I did a bit of research online to…
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Teaching children about money management
This is a small video which we can use to explain some basics of money management to our children. Best way is show them this and ask them to explain it back to us. Then we can correct their understanding. Some key lessons to pass on: 1. Importance of saving 2. Power of compounding 3.…
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Apurnatvam
Apurnatvam, it gnaws at our souls The feeling of incompleteness Constant seeking of the other Things, Power, Status, Wealth, Love No end to this quest, eternal In old age, at the doorstep of death The mind ceaselessly seeks Like hungry living ghosts Still dependent , at another’s mercy This life is ephemeral This body a…
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Use money to find freedom, not bondage
If I have to pass on only one financial advise to my daughter it would be to never get into debt. In borrowing for the present pleasure, we rob ourselves of the future peace and happiness. With the growth of banking and financial institutions, living with debt has become the norm today. To pay EMIs…
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What is Value Parenting?
Your values matter. Use your values to raise caring, responsible, resilient and intelligent children.
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Minding our swear words and gestures
Why it is important to mind our language and what it can mean for our children.
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How can we teach values to our children?
There is only one way to imbibe values in our children, by modelling them. Leading by example is the most important and most effective way to teach values to children. Parents are a child’s best friends as well as role models. What they see in us, they emulate. It is almost impossible to get children…
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Our journey to freedom and independence is about how we choose
I believe each one of us is on a journey and what we are ultimately seeking is freedom. Many call this our spiritual journey and this journey is unique for each one us. Each one of us is seeking freedom in some form- physical, financial, artistic, emotional. It is a journey to satisfy the core…
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Wrong must first of all feel wrong
Human beings are not rational animals but rationalising animals. We reason in the favour of our intuitions. Realising that it is intuition that is our strongest defence and compass in life is really the first step in getting parenting right.
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Lessons for my daughter from an Indian Wedding
A marriage is a beautiful journey of friendship, commitment, companionship, love and parenting. An Indian wedding is something else.
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How to inspire responsibility in children
Responsibility is made of five essential elements and once we know these, we are better positioned to teach them to children. The five elements of responsibility are honesty, compassion or respect, fairness, accountability and courage.
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Breaking the cycle of obsessive thinking
Once we become mindful of the chain of cause and effect and merely act as a witness, without engaging with them, they lose their power. When this clarity dawns upon our minds, we feel lighter, positive and cheerful.
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Task 4: Five point plan to improve health and fitness without disturbing other routines
My small steps to better health and fitness
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Practical Parenting: the (mis) guiding philosophy of our time
If we merely teach kids how to take the path of least resistance, of choosing convenient experiences over journeys, they will end up living a shallow life whose meaning is always contextual, relative and changing.
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Should we set rules or teach values to help build character?
As parents, we all expect our children to develop a good character and virtues so that they can grow to become responsible adults and good citizens. While our expectations are clear, what doesn’t seem so clear is the effective method to do it. Most of us set rules for steering our children in the right…
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To Parent is to…
It’s so much more than a word.
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Harnessing the power of healthy daily routines
‘You’ll never change your life until you change something you do daily. The secret of your success is found in your daily routine.’ – John C. Maxwell
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Task 3: Quality time routines
This entire week I am travelling for work in Switzerland and Germany. I am in the middle of the week and I am home sick already. I especially miss spending time with family – quality time. This got me thinking. I asked myself ‘ do I spend quality time with loved ones? Do I understand…
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Adopting an attitude of Dharma for happy and harmonious living
In simple terms, dharma is the ‘right thing’ to do at any point in time under any given circumstance. It’s an attitude. Dharma itself is aligned and harmonious with the laws of nature- at a physical, psychological and social level. Of course one can debate endlessly about what is right under a given circumstance but…
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Task 2: Setting the routine
‘The secret of your future is hidden in your daily routine.’ – Mike Murdock My next job is to understand and set a daily routine. I think a good sleep of 8 hours is sacrosanct if I have to have the health. And energy to perform well during the day. So the sleep has to…
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Task 1: Drawing up the support system
The first step is to setup the support system.
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The Journey Begins
Like many parents, I didn’t plan to start a blog on parenting. Until the responsibility of single-handedly parenting Aanya landed on my shoulders. For a few months I had to take up the role of both parents for our daughter while my wife would be away. I am married for 9 years now and have…
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