Parenting by Modeling. Be the person you want your children to grow up to be.
Your values matter. Use your values to raise caring, responsible, resilient and intelligent children.
Value parenting is a parenting approach based on Values that you as parents hold most dear. Value parenting is thus a universal approach because parents from any nationality, background or society can adopt the approach and orient it around what its core values are.
Values are principles or standards of behaviour that you deem important in life. To talk about values is to talk about what kind of person you want your child to be.
For a parent, it’s important that their children understand what is good and what are the long-term consequences of their actions. Children need to develop an intuition for the good and to value this goodness over immediate experience.
An idealist value-based mind has a clear understanding of the immediate and long-term good and chooses to do the right thing rather than the most convenient or advantageous thing. This may require one to go through hardships and inconvenience in the short run, and be mocked by many sometimes but he or she chooses what’s good in the long term.
A child brought up with an idealist mindset will seek a cure and not a fix, a solution, not a workaround, a confrontation, not a retreat, strength and not sympathy, respect and not praise, responsibilities not tasks, career not jobs, joy not just fun, journey and not ride.
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- From Spectator to Participant: Why Playing a Game Beats Watching ItI have seen first-hand the frustration and heartbreak that a billion people experienced when India lost the Cricket World Cup finals yesterday to Australia, despite being unbeaten in all the previous games. All the wishes, cheering, prayers and tears amounted to nothing. That can hurt and haunt people for a long time. I even watched my daughter cry. (Hence this post).
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Working Parents
Like many parents, I didn’t plan to start parenting singlehandedly. Until the responsibility squarely landed on my shoulders. For a few months I had to take up the role of both parents for our daughter while my wife would be away.
Frankly speaking, parenting is never one person’s job and to be successful it requires the support of many caring individuals.
I have loved challenges in my professional life, always welcomed and gave my best to deal with them. Solo parenting was to be my biggest personal challenge and I decided to embrace it positively and give my best shot to it too.
Here are some of the lessons and recommendations for anyone that is going to parent solo for any reason:
- The Journey Begins
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The first step is to setup the support system. - Task 2: Setting the routine
‘The secret of your future is hidden in your daily routine.’ – Mike Murdock My next job is to understand and set a daily routine. I think a good sleep of 8 hours is sacrosanct if I have to have the health. And energy to perform well during the day. So the sleep has to… Read more: Task 2: Setting the routine - Task 3: Quality time routines
This entire week I am travelling for work in Switzerland and Germany. I am in the middle of the week and I am home sick already. I especially miss spending time with family – quality time. This got me thinking. I asked myself ‘ do I spend quality time with loved ones? Do I understand… Read more: Task 3: Quality time routines - Task 4: Five point plan to improve health and fitness without disturbing other routines
My small steps to better health and fitness - Finding Meaning & Joy in Chores and Errands
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